He's History, You're Not: Surviving Divorce After 40 - Paperback

by Erica Manfred (Author), Tina Tessina (Foreword by)

In He's History, You're Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, Erica Manfred shares her own divorce experience, as well as the advice of experts, with specific sections tailored to women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s.

Manfred was left for a younger woman in 2003, and eventually learned to both survive and thrive. After educating herself in the areas many women have barely even thought of when considering divorce, she is the kind of girlfriend a woman needs when facing both menopause and the trauma of divorce. She can help save divorcees lots of anguish, and lots of cash.

HE'S HISTORY, YOU'RE NOT discusses how to:
- Avoid "kiss of death" marriage counselors to determine if reconciliation is possible.
- Find an affordable divorce lawyer who does not snort scornfully at the word "mediation."
- Survive the first, worst, year.
- Deal with your adult or teen kids (who can be just as devastated as small children).
- Get back to work or find a new career. (Age discrimination does not have to stop you.)
- Use the Internet to date the Viagra generation.
- Restore your self-esteem despite body parts that have succumbed to gravity.
- Forgive the bastard (and yourself) and finally move on...and much more.

Back Jacket

A savvy, girlfriend-to-girlfriend guide to what to do after your marriage ends Surviving the first--worst--year You and your divorce lawyer Living alone and liking itDating again Forgiving the bastard and moving on

Author Biography

Erica Manfred is a freelance journalist in her early sixties who separated from her husband in 2001 and got divorced in 2006. Her personal essays and self-help articles about relationships, parenting, consumer issues, health, legal issues and other subjects have appeared in Cosmopolitan, New York Times Magazine, Ms., New Age Journal, New York Newsday, Parenting, Village Voice, Woman's Day, SELF, Consumers Digest, Ladies Home Journal, Bottom Line/Personal, and many others. Two of her essays have been anthologized in college textbooks.

As a contributing editor to Bottom Line/Personal consumer newsletter for ten years, she interviewed hundreds of experts in the popular psychology, health and many other fields and translated their ideas into useful articles that emphasized self-help. She is a member of the American Society of Journalists and Authors, Freelance Success; the Mystery Writers of America and the Professional Association of Resume Writers.

Her most recent project was as co-author and self-publisher of a consumer medical book: The Doctor's Guide to Weight Loss Surgery, with Louis Flancbaum M.D., which was sold to Random House in 2003.

She is currently running a women's divorce support group in Woodstock, New York under the auspices of the Mental Health Association of Ulster County. She has a background in social work as a caseworker for the New York State Division for Youth where she counseled families and children for eight years.